For many repats going back home after a long stay abroad, the challenge is not parting ways with the friends they’ve made during their stay. The really tough part is getting home. First, there is the great joy of reuniting with the people you have missed and only seen on social networks. You exchange ideas and tell your best travel stories over and over again.

After the initial excitement has faded and everyone has heard your stories and gotten used to you being back around, you start to ask yourself questions. What are your plans now? Job, studies, training? These questions can be overwhelming.

In addition, you have changed on your journey: Your dreams and the way you perceive things, how you deal with yourself and others, are different. And in contrast, you have the feeling that those who stayed at home have hardly changed.

While the feeling of homesickness may have haunted you from time to time on the trip, you now feel wanderlust. You miss the places where you have had adventures and your friends along the way. You miss that something new happened every day. Adventure had become routine. This scares you, your old environment seems to have become too small for you.

You need patience to get home

You have to know: It's not just you. Conversely, your friends and family will also notice the change in you. They too have to get used to the fact that you came back changed. You need time to get familiar with each other again. You don't want to make them feel like you had a much better time than them. That only creates more distance.

According to top repat coach Elyssa Preston, you should take your time and engage in as many activities as you can at home. Go to a festival, go dancing, maybe go on a short trip. New memories will weld you back together and help you to perceive your old surroundings as your home again.